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Okay OHW readers, I have a dilemma I need help with. Before I ask the question, let me lay out the goings on of this morning for you.
I arrive to work early, and park. Just as I am about to get out of the car, another car pulls in. She saw me when I first pulled in, yet she did not wait for me to get out before she slid in next to me. Instead, I had to wait for her to park her car before I could open my door and get out of mine!
Anyway, she gets out and walks by without saying anything, which was fine with me, because Im not a morning person. Don't care for early AM conversations. I thought she might at least say hello, or good morning though, just because we were getting out of our cars at the same time, right next to each other...She's about three-five steps ahead of me, and reaches our office building door. She buzzes in and does not hold the door open for me.
Im thinking, "Wow! This woman knows Im right behind her." So, we are standing waiting for the elevator, and the doors nearest me open first, so I get in first. I press my floor and she says, "Two please." I hesitate to press "2" because Im thinking, "I know this woman is not ordering me like Im the elevator operator!!!"
But I go ahead and hit her floor. As she's getting off, she says, "Have a nice day."
I'm too dumbfounded and PISSED to say anything back. Dumbfounded because her greeting surprised the hell out of me, and pissed because she didn't ask me to press the button, she commanded me to do so. As I mentioned, I didnt respond.
She gets off the elevator, turns around and mumbles something. I think it was, "Bye".
Question for you: Was I wrong to offer this chick the cold shoulder and not wish her a good morning in return?
5 comments:
Sounds like you were Cranky as hell and she saw it on your face! Lol,
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Oh my dearest blogger, this raises so many concerns for me. You used a whole lotta brain activity for such a small portion and meaningless part of your day. If I were your boss I'd be concerned about how productivity could be left after using so many brain cells in a five minute span. Also, how's your health? I mean, are you heavier than most, causing you to walk slower? If you pulled in and parked before she was even in her space, how did she get three steps ahead of you? And if she was only three steps ahead of you, by the time the door that was notheld open for you closed, you should've been in the doorway already. If you weren't there yet, please refer back to my previous question about your speed, health and weight;-) Okay, enough of the sarcasm. Really, it's all about your perception of the situation. If she was cordial enough to realize that she should say "bye" or "have a nice day" maybe she either didn't realize you were only "three steps" behind her or maybe she was in a rush. I would have assumed she was in a rush since she rushed into the parking spot, blocking your inevitible escape, dooming you to certain one minute delay to your schedule. Then she was so many steps ahead of you and demanded that you push buttons. All this tells me that a person is in a rush. Now you have a choice, do you react ignorantly or childish and say, "push your own buttons?" If so, and she was unaware of her rudeness, you'd run the risk of being the "black girl with the bad attitude." On the other hand, when you were commanded by "massuh" to push the button you could've pushed it and asked, "In a rush today?" If she replies yeah and more than likely with a smile, you'd know none of the aforementioned situations were personal. So you could come off of your attitude and continue with your day. If she says, "no, I'm not in a rush, why?" Then you could hit her with some kinda sly verbal ribshot like, "oh so you're always bossing around black people, you aint get the memo huh." Then she'd be stuck, and you offered an insult while getting that pressure off you or being too childish. You know, when you feel a certain way it's always better to transfer it to somebody else, so you don't feel it anymore. Or you could just do a blog to confirm your feeling of dismisal. ;-)~ You know I love you!!
Redpuppy323! You say I wasted brain activity? Damn, do your fingers hurt? And how do you know the person who wrote this is colored adn the offender was white? BWAHAHAHHAHAAAA
She was probably being herself, or maybe not; who knows. Were you wrong for giving her the cold shoulder; not really. Could you have handled it better; absolutely. You choose your behavior and this morning you chose the cold shoulder treatment – doesn’t make it wrong. Question is, do you think you could have handled it differently.
The next time you see her, smile and say thanks for giving you something to blog about.
This is why I wish I could drive around with a pot of hot grits to threaten people with lol.
Seriously tho I usually ignore people like this....either that or flip them off.
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